My stomach feels like it is in knots and I'm not exactly sure why. My boyfriend, we will call him J, an I have been dating for just over a year and a half. I love him. I am completely comfortable around him, he is sweet, he is funny, he has manners, he's smart (though he does lack some common sense), he says things that are completely corny, he jokes around with me. We don't fight, we haven't gotten in a real fight yet; I'm not sure whether that is a good thing, or a bad thing. I mean, it is great, but sometimes I feel like I forgive him too easily. I just can't stay mad at him. To this day, I have never seen him angry. To be perfectly honest, I'm not sure I would like to see him angry. He is one of those guys who doesn't let things get to him, but I have a feeling that when something does, it is not going to be pretty.
Anyhow, back on topic. Our relationship is pretty decent. I do feel however, that it lacks communication on some level. I don't mean to compare this SO with my previous boyfriends, but I have never had a guy who doesn't send me random text messages, who doesn't initiate the telephone calls (within the past two months was when we finally started talking on the phone), who doesn't really have much to say unless it is in person. I don't think that he doesn't want to talk to me, though it sure feels like that sometimes.
I have had a lot on my mind recently: school, work, and the future amongst the other random thoughts. I tend to be a worrier and I get stressed out really easy. I would love to be abe to just spill my heart out to J, but when we talk over text, or IM (since I usually cannot talk on the phone), he likes to reply "ok". Of course, that immediately stops the conversation. When I have so much more I want to say, he just ends it. There is nowhere a conversation can go after a person says "ok". It drives me insane. Small things like that makes it seem as though he is genuinely not interested in what I have to say. Another thing that drives me crazy, is that he goes to bed super early. Over the weekend, he went to his summer home. Now that really isn't an issue. Like I said earlier, I have had a lot on my mind. He came home, and was finally able to text me. The conversation started out normal, with the "Hey, how are you?" blahblah "How was your weekend?" deal, but I really wanted to talk to him; like actually talk to him. I want to tell him what is on my mind. I want his honest imput. I want him to have something to say. I want him to tell me that there is no reason for me to be stressed. But instead, as I am typing my 3 page text message, he texts me, "I'm going to sleep, good night, sweet dreams, I love you". So much for that.
My stomach feels like it is in permanant knots as of right now. I recently lost my best friend to, I don't even know what (but that is another post for another day). And since then, I don't really have anyone to turn to. I know I should be able to turn to J, but I feel like he doesn't want to talk to me. When I bring this up, he says "of course I want to talk to you". I don't know what to do. All I want, is someone who is here for me. The knots are probably related to the fact that everything is bottled up inside, waiting to explode like mentos and coke.
As of right now, I do not know what to do. I suppose I will also go to sleep, and have some "sweet dreams" of which he bid me before he went to sleep himself.